I am a single mother of an adopted baby, and I am opting to formula-feed since I can’t lactate. I am a working mom as well, and found a home day care provider who seemed amazing—she has two kids of her own (one a little older than my daughter) and has run this home day care for five years or so.

The only bump in the road was on the first day when I pulled out the formula and bottles, and she wrinkled her nose and said, “You feed her that slop?” I ignored the barb (I’m used to it), gave a quick rundown, and went on my way. Two months later, this past Friday, I got off work early and decided to pick up my daughter early. There is a side door where parents can enter without knocking, so I did that. I started the sign-out process, and as I was doing so, the day care assistant walked by and saw me. She tried to engage me with conversation, but I wanted to get my daughter so I brushed by her. When I got to the area of the house where my daughter was, I about fell over. The day care provider was NURSING MY BABY!

I marched over, took the baby from her arms, and asked her if she was crazy. The provider said that she was saving my baby from chemicals I was trying to force into her body and I should thank her for doing it all these months! I didn’t say anything; I just grabbed the diaper bag and got the hell out of there.

But now I am not sure what to do. Obviously, I am not sending my daughter back there, but should I report her to the umbrella company she is under for home day cares, or should I make a huge blast on social media? My sister says I should send out texts to the parents that have kids there so they can do their own check-ins, but that is too much I think. Your thoughts?


  1. Wow I’m sorry but I would have flipped out. There is no way at all that this situation is okay. For a daycare worker to be breast feeding your child is completely absurd. Anyone in there right mind would also agree with me. I would definitely report the establishment to the authorities. No questions asked and also get an exam and blood work done on my child. So sorry this happened to you.

  2. I would’ve reported her, some things you do not do and that is one ! If I was able to breastfeed my baby I would’ve , but I’m not so there she is to drink the formula I GAVE YOU ashen I first came .

  3. I definitely would’ve sued her and made other parents aware of what happened. People are so crazy now a days.

  4. Nothing is to much when you have kids I’m very extra when it come to me kids I would tell the other parents because that isn’t right she didn’t ask you or nothing she just did it without your permission. Yes fine her another daycare

  5. That is disgusting and frightening. I would definitely contact other kids parents making them aware of the issue because if she did it with one kid I’m sure she did it with several. Who in their right mind thinks it’s okay to nurse someone else’s child?? Psssh please, better than me wouldn’t of just been no snatching my child & leaving believe that!!